Thinking about being yourself, I want to say that it's difficult to decide who you are. I think that every person is a combination of everything he's surrounded: circumstances, people, emotions, traditions, environment. How to not lose your true personality trying to take the best and refuse the worst of that you're surrounded? How to differ "the worst" and "the best"? You need to be very clever person to filter what's going into your heart and what's need to be refused. And the only way to puzzle out is reading intelligent books, communicating with experienced and interesting people and watching movies with high-quality plots. So that you won't ever notice how yourself will be found even without your expectations.